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STORIES | ESSAYS: Spirit Rising

Spirit is a 13-year-old girl in the difficult transition from childhood to womanhood. One minute she is sensual and sexual, full of the knowledge of her power as a woman, the next a giggling girl, joking with her friends and acting silly. Her days are spent at Hermann Middle School, challenging her teachers, passing notes and sometimes ending up in the office. The romance in her life is inconsistent, and she admits she has a talent for choosing the wrong boys. In her past she has faced painful situations where she had no control and they have left their mark. Spirit can be moody, defiant, and brazen and when attacked responds with vengeance. At these times it is hard to remember that she is only 13, still discovering who she is. And small towns can be unforgiving. Some see Spirit as a delinquent and she is often accused of dressing and acting inappropriately. In a community where lack of options and lack of excitement can lead to trouble, many girls only a few years older than Spirit have babies, often more than one. At 13 it is hard to believe that the path may already be set. The question remains, will Spirit be rising or falling?

"Life was perfect until I was 11," says Spirit who is 13 years old and attends Hermann Middle School in Hermann, Missouri, population 2,674. She lives with her mother, Cindy, her grandfather, Jim, and her older brother Lou, 27.
  
Spirit has done some modeling and was a state finalist for Miss Missouri Pre-teen. However, trouble with the law, a stay in a group home and probation made her drop-out of the competition.
  
The spot light is on Spirit on picture day. Last spring she got all A's and one B but this year her report card is showing B's and C's and D's.  "Sixth grade was easy," says Spirit. "Seventh grade is a lot harder."
     
  
After school Spirit, Brittney, 13, and Bre, 14, usually hang out at Spirit's house where they are allowed to smoke. Spirit's favorite brand of cigarettes are Marlboros and she smokes about half a pack a day, less if she has already spent her allowance. Her mother buys them for her.
  
Spirit, Bre, and Brittney share mom's home-made cookies while listening to music. Spirit's room is filled with pictures of Nelly, Britney Spears, fast cars, professional wrestlers and her immense wardrobe.
  
Finding little to do Spirit and her friends hang out at the park. Most of their time involves smoking, socializing at the BP gas station, and walking around town. "Look around you, we are in hell," says Spirit.
     
  
Spirit stops by Becky's house to exchange gossip. Becky, 23, is the former girlfriend of Spirit's brother.  She has three children.
  
Spirit and her friend Jimmy, 18, stare each other down. "I've never been out with a guy more than 3 times, I'm not a baseball game. Three strikes and you're out," says Spirit.
  
Spirit is prescribed Paxil for depression plus another medication to help her sleep at night but sometimes skips her pills, "It makes me different," claims Spirit.
     
  
Spirit and her mother, Cindy, argue about a trip to the store before she has to leave for the night-shift at GEX Automotive making sealant for car windows. Cindy had her first child when she was 16 and was hoping to have a girl. However, she did not have Spirit until 14 years later. "I was a partier when I was younger, by the time I had her I grew up," Cindy says. Spirit has never met her father.
  
Spirit gets angry about her brother Lou's warnings about dating Will, a local boy who was recently hospitalized for a driving accident involving drinking. Will does not want to have a relationship with Spirit for fear of Lou's wrath, and so ignores her. This leaves Spirit in limbo, "I'm not going to spend my life waiting for him, even though I do."
  
Spirit hopes to study fashion design, but says that she is not sure she wants to go to college.